Day 3,839 —Adventures in Parenting #288 —

 

     My daughter seemed happy as she walked to my car. I didn’t wait long before asking her how things went today with her best friend.     

She said she kept saying “all three” to ask if they could all three play together, but they didn’t want to play with her. She told me her best friend pushed her down, but my daughter didn’t seem that upset about it.    

        When she finished talking, she said, “What else do I do, Dada?” I asked her if she remembered that if they didn’t want to play with her, she should play with Charlie or someone else who wanted to play with her.     

She said while smiling, “Okay, I forgot.” Later I heard her talking about what might happen, but she wasn’t mad at herself any more instead she said things like.     

        “Sometimes people don’t want to be your friend. So you get another friend.” I told her that was right and that she was doing an amazing job dealing with all that had happened. I don’t know what she is going to experience today, but I told her that there will always be people who love her and want to be her friend, and there are sometimes people who just don’t like you for reasons that have nothing to do with you but everything to do with them. It took me a long time to learn that. I just never could understand why someone would be mean to me for no reason.